hello there. I hope that wherever and whenever you read this, it’s a good day. And if it’s not be reminded that you are alive and that in itself is a gift to be grateful for.

let’s get into today’s blog;

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Doing the right thing when no one is looking takes a lot of being intentional because you don’t get props for it.

But I think it’s the best place to build a good character in line with kindness and love.

If you are not genuinely kind and are just doing it to be noticed then you are pretending.

Plus I think it’s a lot of energy used when we do things to impress people. Which most of us have been victims of.

I remember when we were young or at least in most Ugandan homes, when visitors came, we would be asked to be happy, smile for the guests, and dance for the guests. It didn’t matter if it was not a good day, you had to make an impression. And a good one.

And that sticks with most of us.

We grow up acting nice because that is what is expected of us.

We become people pleasers.

It takes learning that people don’t really care for most of us to snap out of it.

A people pleaser according to Brett Stewart and Corey Irwin is defined as a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires.

This is not entirely a bad thing because it shows you care but it doesn’t do you or your loved ones any favors because it is also exhausting.

And that’s why I think what you do when no one is seeing trickles into what you do in the limelight.

So let’s do better.

Shalom.